Monday, March 03, 2008

"We're living in a society!"

Is it unfair that for a year or so, during engagement, women have to wear rings while men do not? Implication being, men get an extra year of (implied) availability, whereas women are too blinded by shiny objects to think of other men for the months ahead. Or am I the only person to see things this way?

6 comments:

FLG said...

I am 100% with you. Please bring further attention to the issue of engagement rings being unfair to women. Men will thank you because then we won't have to plunk down 2-3 months salary on a shiny thing that we just don't understand. :)

Phoebe said...

Both wearing rings would also be a solution, but I think the whole concept of engagement is a bit bizarre. Why the need for an official intermediary stage between boyfriend-girlfriend and husband-wife?

FLG said...

To plan the shiny, white wedding of course.

Most of the fixation on engagement, marriage, wedding, etc is insane. The year between my engagement and marriage was probably the most stressful one in my life thus far. Not because of my wife and I, but because of the expectations and opinions of others. They were not shy about asserting what they thought was how it had to be.

I suggest that you go for the no rings for either party during engagement route. I really don't want to see Cosmo headlines about "picking his engagement ring." Just my personal preference.

Withywindle said...

I got a cheapo pewter ring in the Village with my fiancee, and wore it while I was engaged.

kei said...

I have to admit that having a nice ring is...well, nice. (I mean that both jokingly and seriously, somehow.) But I understand your point about engagements being sort of an unnecessary stage. I especially hate the word "fiancé," but feel obligated because of the ring's visibility. I'm not sure what Mordecai refers to me as, but I wonder if he feels less obligated to say "fiancée," sans ring. Hmm.

ck said...

It's all a scam. We all know it. So let's just stop. I mean shit, if I was engaged, I'd be willing to write it on my forehead for a year. But please, enough with this ridiculous, over priced bling. There are children starving in Africa! I'd really rather provide clean drinking water to a village in Ghana for 3 months. Much better use of the money. I don't care, call me a hippie. You don't like it? Don't marry me.