I'm respectfully submitting to our faithful readers a question of etiquette.
The sister of a certain blogger is soon to be asked an important question involving a ring, which commits both her and her boyfriend to rather absurd levels of spending on a certain future date. Said blogger does not know the groom-to-be especially well, but can confirm that this person is an acceptable mate for his sister.
However, said blogger was taken aback when he was notified by his roommates and close acquaintances that tradition holds that he should in fact participate in the wedding...as a groomsman! Since said blogger does not know the groom-to-be very well, is currently legally excluded from having such a wedding himself, and is especially wary of attending any possible bachelor party that may arise as a result of this commitment, he is exceptionally hesitant to perform said function. Though he would be more than happy to attend said wedding, he is simply wary of attending as part of the company.
So, dear readers, do tell: What is the obligation of our trusty blogger?
Ample space to pontificate provided in the comment space...
Sister in laws are often made bridesmaids even though the bride may barely know them. I would have thought you'd be in your element at a batchelor party.
ReplyDeleteThere is no commitment unless they ask said blogger (SB) and SB agrees. If asked to participate, before SB agrees, SB will sit down and have a talk with SB's sister about SB's concerns.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, it would be a bit odd for SB to be asked to be a groomsman since he doesn't know the groom well, unless for some reason the sister especially wants SB in the wedding (e.g., like SB and sister are very close).
Unless his sister particularly wants him in the wedding as a groomsman, he shouldn't have to be one. Another option would be to be an usher, and just help seat people - that way he could participate without having to be such an active participant. Also, the bachelor party would be completely optional.
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