tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post7258113989010995864..comments2024-03-12T22:31:46.500-04:00Comments on What Would Phoebe Do?: What is "liberal" parenting?Phoebe Maltz Bovyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-22330798211274926652014-11-10T13:04:03.787-05:002014-11-10T13:04:03.787-05:00argh. *drawing _connections_ among.argh. *drawing _connections_ among.Moebius Strippernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-27028897540870330932014-11-10T13:03:24.297-05:002014-11-10T13:03:24.297-05:00Oy. I'm cringing on behalf of the liberal mom,...Oy. I'm cringing on behalf of the liberal mom, who's drawing conclusions among liberal politics, permissive parenting, and kids testing boundaries, on the basis of...a sample of herself? On the flip side of Britta's grandmother is my brother, an Orthodox rabbi who's as socially and politically conservative as such types generally are. But he's a loving dad who's very attentive to his children's emotional needs, yet not a permissive one - he has plenty of firm rules (including a few antiquated ones, like 'no hats at the dinner table'). He doesn't spank, but does send the toddlers for time-outs when they misbehave. <br /><br />Guess what? The 3- and 4-year-olds still try to see what they can get away with. Because that's what kids do, regardless of who their parents voted for.Moebius Strippernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-45741450855842273122014-11-10T03:45:46.761-05:002014-11-10T03:45:46.761-05:00My grandmother was a socialist and far to the left...My grandmother was a socialist and far to the left of most Americans on social issues, and she parented like a cross between Nietzsche and the Tiger Mom. <br /><br />My parents parented politically and morally, mainly that as leftist Christians and strict deontologists, they taught us that we weren't any more special than anyone else, and that our race and class backgrounds didn't make us inherently more deserving than any other child. They backed this up, both through extensive good works helping out disadvantaged kids and by making sure we were exposed to the rough and tumble world of working class childhood. I had play dates in kindergarten in the worst neighborhoods in my city, where I roamed around with packs of older kids, and played in lots of parking lots of low rent apartments. My parents had the attitude that "if it's acceptable for any kid, then it's acceptable for you." Lots of people seem to feel that blonde girls in particular are delicate flowers that could be abducted at any moment, and I remember people being horrified that they'd let their kids play unsupervised in bad areas of town, but they were like, "if it's so unsafe, then no one should play there, but if you're ok with black kids, or immigrant kids playing there, why not white middle class blonde girls?"<br />Brittahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02224221011978374915noreply@blogger.com