tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post2731401918225076957..comments2024-03-12T22:31:46.500-04:00Comments on What Would Phoebe Do?: "'Vanity is a great motivator,' he said, between sips of jasmine green tea with cinnamon [...]"Phoebe Maltz Bovyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-30275850325708692852010-09-25T19:53:30.805-04:002010-09-25T19:53:30.805-04:00Because cellulite is a way to get even very thin w...Because cellulite is a way to get even very thin women to spend money on being less "fat"? <br />If you fall in the small fraction of women who can't be fat shamed based on overall body shape or weight or measurements, you can still feel inadequate for having cellulite, or inner thigh fat (my personal least favorite thing to worry about), or anything else that any post pubescent women who is not a famine victim has.Brittahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02224221011978374915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-90471315639534138942010-09-25T19:19:44.300-04:002010-09-25T19:19:44.300-04:00But I even think things as simple as stress level ...<i> But I even think things as simple as stress level enter into it - if I'm under a lot of stress, I get more ma'ams than if not. </i><br /><br />Agreed. The first time I was horrified rather than pleased not to be getting carded for a drink was in my first semester of law school, during exam period, when I was out with a (non-law school) friend who is actually a year older than myself. We both ordered margaritas; her age was checked, but mine wasn't. It's the only time that's happened while I've been hanging out with her, or anyone else my age or older, so I chalked it up to my looking older from stress.PGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09381347581328622706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-27282882975594705402010-09-25T17:45:29.633-04:002010-09-25T17:45:29.633-04:00Aging/the age people imagine you to be is only par...Aging/the age people imagine you to be is only partly about wrinkles. There's also hair/hairstyle, body shape, clothing choice, etc. Dressing in a way that signals "student" takes the years off... to a point. The straight-up-and-down look younger than the curvy, because curves can read as "matronly." Also anything "mom" - mom jeans, mom haircuts - signal a life stage associated with 30-and-up. But I even think things as simple as stress level enter into it - if I'm under a lot of stress, I get more ma'ams than if not. <br /><br />Anyway, as for the why-care issue, I guess because one day the wrinkles aren't there, and then they are, and any change that signals aging (first gray hair, but even, albeit not to all girls, puberty) can be cause for alarm in a youth-oriented society. The greater mystery to me is why women are supposed to care about cellulite. This is a feature that's a) unavoidable, and b) irrelevant to a woman's attractiveness unless she's so famous that paparazzi are photographing her lounging at the beach. Barring extreme cases, why is this something anyone would get worked up about? Because OMG a man might notice in bed? Assuming this man's previous partners/possible alternatives are also women over the age of 18, it's something he's long since accepted (or simply never noticed), if heterosexuality's going to be his thing.Phoebe Maltz Bovyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-57488552865238172972010-09-25T12:14:43.643-04:002010-09-25T12:14:43.643-04:00I am always curious about this, mainly because I a...I am always curious about this, mainly because I am 27 and have 27 year old skin (fine wrinkles forming around the eyes, creases on the forehead that take longer to go away, etc.). I also have ok skin, but not great skin otherwise. I don't have blotchy or acne prone skin, but I also don't have tiny pores and super soft smooth skin either. But anyways, even though I pretty much look my age skin-wise, people always assume I am much, much younger. If it's the case that you can have 27 y.o. skin and be 27 but people still ask you if you are 19, then what is the point about worrying if your skin ages you? Is there a critical point where your wrinkles suddenly cease to be irrelevant and then suddenly add 10 years to your age? If so, I would like to know when.Brittahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02224221011978374915noreply@blogger.com