tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post1826440738863326266..comments2024-03-12T22:31:46.500-04:00Comments on What Would Phoebe Do?: Bisou endorses this postPhoebe Maltz Bovyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-38820623216202406652013-05-17T18:34:36.616-04:002013-05-17T18:34:36.616-04:00"Of course, if Hulu had Season 4 of "The...<i>"Of course, if Hulu had Season 4 of "The Bob Newhart Show" (no television, but out of cheapness, not principles) and I could knock back a couple of those rather than finishing this task"</i><br /><br />Given the state of play in IP infringement actions, I think you're immensely close to 100% safe in pirating BBC subtitled broadcast torrents of Denmark teevee like <i>Borgen</i>.<br /><br />Like I say, good, clean, middle-brow, gender-equality fun...Peteynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-25089551782659497352013-05-16T11:41:20.977-04:002013-05-16T11:41:20.977-04:00We did? But it serves positive functions as well -...We did? But it serves positive functions as well - staying in touch with people you want to stay in touch with, casually checking in with people who live far away, inviting and getting invited to events. Also: spirited debates about articles. We all need to come to our own conclusions, weighing that against whichever neuroses it may inspire (and whichever concerns re: privacy, re: our information being sold).Phoebe Maltz Bovyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-81876303252789779212013-05-16T11:06:19.133-04:002013-05-16T11:06:19.133-04:00Didn't we all reach consensus several years ag...Didn't we all reach consensus several years ago that Facebook was detrimental to mental health?Peteynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-2449686405775923962013-05-16T09:33:44.939-04:002013-05-16T09:33:44.939-04:00Oh, and another possibility: if "loneliness&q...Oh, and another possibility: if "loneliness" is (as it apparently is) defined as a lack of intimacy, it almost doesn't matter whether Facebook is presenting the best-of version of nights out or nights in, assuming they're not nights in entirely alone. Whatever relationships we see on Facebook - friends or family - are going to be shown in their best light. The <i>quality</i> of other people's relationships will, from that perspective, often end up looking enviable, even when we all know intellectually that people are putting their best feet forward, that people will talk about being in crummy relationships/life situations and then take to Facebook to say how great everything is, etc.Phoebe Maltz Bovyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-15790245584594373672013-05-16T00:36:39.629-04:002013-05-16T00:36:39.629-04:00Flavia,
Reading your comment, I'm realizing t...Flavia,<br /><br />Reading your comment, I'm realizing that a good number of my (slightly older than I am, generally) friends do post along these lines. Minutae, not bragging. Or: it may read as bragging to those who desperately want a kid, but to me, at this point in my life, not so much. With the baby photos, either the baby is particularly cute and I look, squeal, move on, or it's just part of the blur of Facebook and it doesn't move me either way.<br /><br />I don't think there's an equivalent, though, with going-out posts. Often something is actually being celebrated, so people will look... celebratory. But even if not, people are dressed up, giving the impression of having a good time. The nights-in posts may inspire annoyance in that they can be smug, or envy in that they can hit upon life-milestone anxieties. Whereas people out having a good time, that kind of always looks appealing, I think, even to those who intellectually recognize that most of the time, they'd rather stay in.Phoebe Maltz Bovyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-76037885515364594742013-05-16T00:29:00.448-04:002013-05-16T00:29:00.448-04:00My anecdata match Nicholas's: lots of people o...My anecdata match Nicholas's: lots of people on my feed talk about the Netflix they're watching, the yummy dinners they're making, the adorable things their children did (often with video footage!), or the household projects they're getting done or not getting done.<br /><br />And some of this, sure, involves the same species of bragging that goes on in posts documenting nights out--but plenty of it doesn't: people talk about the mysterious way it takes three weeks to reorganize the closets, about their failures and embarrassments in parenting or in home repair, or whatever. My impression is that there are a lot of relatively social introverts (or people otherwise stuck at home because of kids, etc.) who share the minutiae of their lives partly to be part of a minutiae-sharing <i>community</i>; they don't see their friends as much as they'd like, and this is their way of chatting with them and staying in touch.Flaviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17832765671541392835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-81504806964083924822013-05-16T00:22:51.741-04:002013-05-16T00:22:51.741-04:00I think Facebook has a way of highlighting our ins...I think Facebook has a way of highlighting our insecurities, whatever they may be. I'm not, as this post indicates, getting out much. While this has tons to do with circumstances (such as dissertation-lockdown-mode, such as living in the woods), I've never been the world's most outgoing person, so it will be the out-and-about posts that make me question my own evening spent <i>finally</i> getting the dissertation introduction into print-and-read-it-over-and-send-it-out shape. Finally.<br /><br />But I met my now-husband at 23 and am now 29, so boasting about relationship status, unless it's really egregious, like people who get married and then post that it's your two-week anniversary, then three-week, or something like that, and no, that specific thing never happened but things like it... unless it's extreme, it isn't jumping out at me. I'm not going to perceive 'I'm married and I live in the suburbs' as bragging. Nor will I read 'I went to UChicago' as bragging, whereas 'I went to Harvard,' well, depends how it's phrased. <br /><br />Because it isn't just relationship (friendship or romantic) anxiety. A fellow grad student once posted a (very amusing) rant about how they didn't want to hear about everyone else's fancy jobs/vacations, not while prepping for exams, at least. It can be any possible grass-is-greener anxiety, because we're just so aware of what else is out there, as well as always getting a best-aspects-only view of it. Phoebe Maltz Bovyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996039330841139883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146512.post-24268828428252494362013-05-15T22:38:40.195-04:002013-05-15T22:38:40.195-04:00Anecdata: on the one hand, I agree with the genera...Anecdata: on the one hand, I agree with the general point here. On the other, 1. I'm pretty sure my feed has at least as many people bragging over their nights in as their nights out, probably more (a feature, no doubt, of how much long-term relationships and families are ostensibly valued amongst my fb friends), and 2. this may just be narcissism, but I assume people with many times the friends that I have are much more promiscuous in their friending, and thus not really points of comparison. I might otherwise be tempted to attribute both of these to my age, but I don't think that's a relevant difference, though the midwestern origins or destinations of most of my friend list might be more of an explanation.Nicholashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05693481720368030657noreply@blogger.com